Players!

Players come in all shapes and sizes, all styles and strategies. The players that are usually scorned the most are those who think they are, but do the worst job of, working 'undercover'. So they go about their covert lives dragging behind them a hundred different scents - perfume, the coffee house, their own cologne (which has only recently begun to smell so strong), more perfume, the Thai restaurant and did I mention......perfume? The impact they have upon their partner's lives is, as usual, devastating, but with a touch of 'I always knew something was wrong' This feeling facilitates the 'getting over him' process generally because it enhances the 'I hate him' stage which is the most productive for many.

The players that should be feared the most are those who play their game so well that they seem genuine for too long before the cracks start to show. The ones who make you ask yourself 100 questions before you see what is and has always been, obvious. For these players to be effective there needs to be a certain degree of self-belief on their part which is the reason for our numerous questions. We usually see it before they do and often find ourselves contradicting the players denial. Why is it so obvious to us? Because the simple things like manners, respect, courtesy and compassion are no longer present. Consequently, in our attempts to preserve our self-respect and self-worth we draw back the curtains to reveal, as plain as day.........the game.

Written by Elva Parinaud
29/03/2008